Let’s face it: whether you’re in a relationship, crushing or dating, Valentine’s Day seems to bring out the worst when it comes to self doubt, insecurity, and even jealousy. This Valentine’s Day, take a minute to reflect on yourself, and even examine what you think are your flaws and try to love them.
At LATV, we produce a digital series called Esa Soy Yo, where Latinas share how they learned to love their flaws – so here are some important lessons we’ve learned from making it.
“Flaws” are subjective.
Before dwelling on trying to change something about yourself, think about it objectively. Ask yourself, “If a friend or loved one told me they were insecure about the same thing, how would I react to them?” Obvio, if they’re your friend, you wouldn’t shame them – you would probably reassure them. You might even point out that you feel the same way, and what they see as a flaw, you see as a beautiful thing. Now, turn around and apply that same logic to yourself. Turn that empathy and kindness onto yourself. Below is how Sand One learned to love being short!
The golden rule of self love. “Treat yourself how you treat others”
Sometimes it’s really easy to identify qualities we like in other people, but when it comes to us we can only seem to focus on what we don’t like. That’s why a good exercise is to look at qualities you admire in others (yes, even your crush) and see how you might have the same quality. You will be pleasantly surprised by just how awesome you are!
Now, if you’re feeling like you want some revenge, check out this article.