A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another human. It sounds simple, right? Then why are there hundreds of books written about relationships and almost every therapy session involves people trying to make them work? That’s because we, as humans, have the bad habit of complicating everything we do. Especially if it involves other people.
So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them change, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought. But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest and a waste of everybody’s energy; yours, the person you are trying to change and your bestie who is tired of hearing you complain. So don’t go there!
An honest relationship on the other hand, is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and find a way to share our life experiences together. And if we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is with ourselves.
By accepting our partners for exactly who they are – the ideal and the not-so-ideal – we create an energetic shift in our relationships, and we may find ourselves really appreciating our partners for the first time. Working from within, we determine how we relate to the people and the world around us, and when we can accept it and embrace it all, we make every act of relating a positive one.
Check out this Get It Girl episode that all things relationships: