2020 has been a year in which complaining has become the norm; about the pandemic, politics, fires, the last season of ‘The Bachelor’…and some people are really good at it. They somehow turn the process of complaining into an art. Sometimes funny, (most of the time exhausting) these people have the ability to find a problem just about anywhere and get energy from ranting on Twitter about it…(sound familiar?)
And let’s be clear, complaining itself it is not a bad thing per se. It’s a natural, human process of seeing what’s not working in one’s life or in the world. But, it would be useful if it followed with an ideal conclusion – finding a solution – don’t you think? However, complainers usually don’t get that far. They love the first part of the process, which is the “destroyer” mode, but they are not a big fan of the second mode, which is the “builder.” And I get it, the latter means a lot more work and to acknowledge that you, and only you, are the one to blame for the thing you are complaining about. But if you just remain in that zone, in the long term, complaining without doing anything about it won’t take you far in life.
Because if all we do is tear down, never bothering to create something new, we are at risk of becoming a stagnant and destructive force in our own lives and in the lives of the people we love. Another issue with complaining is that we sometimes tend to focus on other people who we can’t change, becoming victims as opposed to creators, as a way of deflecting attention from the one thing we can actually change: ourselves!
So as this chaotic year is coming to an end, I invite you to embrace this beautiful mantra and put it into practice:
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”
And ask ourselves the positive question of what we would like to create in the place of whatever it is we want to tear down, using our energy to change the world around us in a positive (not destructive) way.
Namaste, my friends.