When you are in a long term relationship, it’s very easy to get lost in the routine, and all of a sudden those butterflies that invaded your stomach at the beginning are magically gone. Bedtime is actually one of the best times for bonding with your partner – and no, I’m not just talking about sex. Here are some simple steps you can do to keep the spark alive:
- Don’t talk about work right before going to bed. Talking about your daily routine is inevitable, but maybe do that when you get home, or during dinner. Pillow talk should be exclusively about both of you. The bed should be a sanctuary for intimacy, affection and rest. Work related stuff is certainly off limits.
- Don’t go to sleep being upset at your partner. Let’s say you had a heavy argument. Try to solve it before you go to bed and in the event that you can’t, try not to go to bed angry with each other. You can say, “We are both obviously too tired to figure this out right now, let’s figure it out tomorrow, but I’m not mad at you” in a loving way.
- Keep Tech to a minimum. We are all addicted to our phones. But our loved one should be more addicting! Leave the phone aside. You could be using that time to talk, connect authentically or be intimate – don’t waste it scrolling down your Instagram!
- Kiss each other “good night”. It sounds cheesy, but it’s important. If you can end your day and start your day with some physical affection, why not taking advantage of it?
- You actually go to bed together. Seems logic, right? But the truth is that sometimes your partner goes to sleep and you still need to finish few things; either work related or finish binge watching the latest Netflix show. If you and your partner have different schedules, that won’t be an option, but if you guys have a similar one, try to be on the same page. Couples who go to bed together, stay together.
What are some things you have done to help relationships? Let us know down below in the comments!